Freeing Sexual Energy vs Spending Sexuality

In the modernizing world, we have started to use the term “trauma” more widely and we now know that most of us are made up of unconscious reactions.

Especially in societies where sexuality is prohibited, the frequency of sexual trauma is very high. We are all looking for ways to deal with it.

Human beings wants to somehow liberate their sexual energy, their life force. For this, we read various articles and receive therapies and watch videos.

It is very important to make peace with one’s own sexual being. We know this.

Well, let’s look at the subject from another angle, shall we?

Is it liberating sexuality, tossing it out? Is it a constant desire for sex? Is it to define yourself through your sexuality, sexual orientation or identity? There is a serious confusion of perception going on here.

We are in an age where modernity is defined as freedom of sex, especially in the new generation. Experimenting with polygamy, being perceived as the only way to stay experimental and the right thing, and even being called narrow minded who doesn’t want to share their sexuality with someone they’re not in love with… More examples abound.

We try to fill our endless curiosity for pleasure and all our deficiencies with sexuality, and we can consume sexuality under the name of freedom.

Not being able to experience sexuality for certain reasons -even though we want- is a problem in our life, but this does not mean that a person who can live sexually comfortably is normative.

What happens to us as a result of sexual encounters that we do not really weigh our feelings about, do not think about, and do not give ourselves space and time to digest?

They told me once about a very good newspaper article. “The best sex is when we take a break and drink tea.” I laughed so much at this. Because in today’s reality, first sexuality, then dating takes place and the result is disappointment. I guess that tea break is a good time to meet. Funny but true.

Of course, our bodies also communicate and meet. Of course, sexuality is also a sharing, a communication. I just want to underline that there is a difference between being sexually healthy and basing relationships with sexuality.

In addition, although today’s rate of porn addiction and pleasure addiction clearly reveals the seriousness of the situation, these issues are always covered. No one has the courage to talk about it or share it. In this way, this table gradually becomes legitimate. This is how social perceptions are managed.

There is a sentence in The Suffering of Eros: “Porn’s biggest problem is not that it has too much sex in it, it’s that it has no sex at all.” And the young people, who are not given sexual education, learn about sexuality from porn and start this process with a big mistake.

Not to mention that popular TV series and movies, especially productions such as Netflix, show sexuality in a sloppy manner and as if that’s the only “cool” thing.

It’s sad but true… So just because you don’t want to be with everyone you come across doesn’t make you sexually problematic.

Not choosing polygamy doesn’t make you narrow minded.

A constant lack of sexual desire does not make you sick.

In addition, although today’s rate of porn addiction and pleasure addiction clearly reveals the seriousness of the situation, these issues are always covered. No one has the courage to talk about it or share it. In this way, this table gradually becomes legitimate. This is how social perceptions are managed.

There is a sentence in The Suffering of Eros: “Porn’s biggest problem is not that it has too much sex in it, it’s that it has no sex at all.” And the young people, who are not given sexual education, learn about sexuality from porn and start this process with a big mistake.

Not to mention that popular TV series and movies, especially productions such as Netflix, show sexuality in a sloppy manner and as if that’s the only “cool” thing.

It’s sad but true… So just because you don’t want to be with everyone you come across doesn’t make you sexually problematic.

Not choosing polygamy doesn’t make you an idiot.

A constant lack of sexual desire does not make you sick.

Sexuality is important, yes, but there is a world beyond it.

Our limbic system and frontal cortex have improved a lot, thankfully.

We are at a level where we cannot live solely on pleasure.

I would like to remind you that there is no truth in this business, and that your sexuality is unique to you, just like every other feature.

In my opinion, this knowledge is the greatest sexual freedom!