Eros Cannot be Understood with Logos
As humans, we all possess our own sense of eroticism, whether we embrace it or not. In a time when cognitive thinking is perceived as the only path, suppressing certain emotions and sensations leads us to suppress our erotic nature as well.
Remember, you cannot suppress just one thing; suppression comes as a package. Whatever it is you want to suppress will also stifle its duality and opposition within you.
So, why do we feel the need to suppress a part of ourselves? Because we don’t understand it, we misinterpret it, or we see it through a limited lens. It’s influenced by the common ideas that our surroundings impose on us, and we feel it doesn’t suit us—or maybe we are simply afraid of it. This is why taking the time to deeply explore and understand a concept is the first step toward becoming whole.
Although we tend to think of eroticism as something purely related to sexuality, we now know that, at its core, it’s about “the love of life” and “the ability to connect” on a much broader level (something I’ve written about countless times). I want to emphasize this ability to connect because we no longer make room for connection in our lives. This is the root of why we feel disconnected from both the world and ourselves.
We don’t know how to connect. We don’t know what true connection means or how it manifests in our lives.
We mistake the external appearance of the hunter and prey dynamic for eroticism, thereby suppressing the truth that resides within us. The exhausting part of this false sense of eroticism is that it pushes us to always *do* something, to *look* a certain way, and to keep consuming. This, again, shows just how far we are from understanding the real essence of eroticism.
Being erotic has almost nothing to do with how we look. Eroticism is a state of consciousness, and when we liberate it from sexuality and spread it throughout life, it allows us to experience the magnificence of existence.
Very few people have any appetite or enthusiasm for life anymore, because we’ve started to perceive the world as a difficult and frightening place to live. And while it’s true that life conditions are evolving and we don’t have to pretend everything is perfect, we also need to move away from the idea that everything is terrible. Instead, we should focus on the act of living itself. This allows us to break free from our automatic behaviors and the emotional and mental patterns we’ve grown accustomed to.
Eroticism has no formula, no script—it exists in the present moment. It’s about what you feel right now, how your being responds to what you feel, the relationship that emerges from it, and how that relationship touches something within you. Sometimes you understand it, sometimes you don’t, but you always feel it.
Can you truly look into someone’s eyes and have a genuine conversation?
When you hug someone, do you feel the texture of their skin and the rhythm of their breath in your hands?
Can you listen to someone, truly opening yourself to them in that moment?
Right now, as you sit, are you aware of having a body?
Do you take pleasure in any activity that doesn’t drain you?
Studying Eros and eroticism is important to fill the gaps in these areas of our lives. No one ever taught us about love and true connection, and even if they did, it remained theoretical. That’s why, when we explore Eros, we must turn toward the body. Opening the gates of sensuality within the body simply reminds us that we are alive. This is all we need—to know that we are alive.
But you can’t know this with your mind—Eros cannot be understood with logos.
To relate with Eros, you must fall into the depths of your chest and into every inch of your skin.